Unfollowing Sad Grief Content: Choosing Healing Over Heartache

Seven years ago, I lost my mother and with that loss came a wave of grief so consuming, I didn’t know if I’d ever come up for air. Grief changed me. It still lives with me. But over time, I’ve also changed how I live with it.

As I’ve walked this grief journey and grown along the way I’ve learned something that may feel unpopular to say out loud:

I no longer center pain. I choose peace.

In the early days, I clung to content that mirrored my sadness memes about loss, quotes about the ache, posts that echoed the emptiness I was feeling. At the time, they helped me feel seen. But as the months turned into years, something shifted. I realized that constantly consuming content that kept me in the valley wasn’t helping me climb out of it.

I needed something different if I wanted to feel something different.

So, I began to unfollow accounts that were rooted in pain even well-meaning ones. I stopped reading posts that triggered tears rather than light. I gave myself permission to step away from sadness and move toward something softer: growth, healing, and the quiet possibility of joy again.

Let me be clear  --  this isn’t about avoidance.
This is about intention.

I still miss my mother every day. Her absence is real. Her love, even more so. But I’ve reached a place in my grief where I’m no longer trying to survive her loss; I’m learning how to live alongside it. With grace. With depth. With a continued bond that honors her memory without being trapped by the pain.

As the founder of The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc., a nonprofit that supports women grieving the loss of their mothers, I’ve seen how many people get stuck in the cycle of sadness. And while therapy and professional mental health care are invaluable (especially in the early stages), I believe there’s something sacred about hearing from someone who’s been there  -- not just in the darkness, but in the climb toward light.

If you’re grieving and also yearning to feel something different, I want you to know:

·       You are not wrong for wanting more than pain.

·       You are not cold or “over it” for seeking peace.

·       You are not broken if your healing doesn’t look like anyone else’s.

There is no one way to grieve. But there are ways to reclaim your life within the grief.

For me, it started with simply unfollowing sad grief content.
And then choosing to follow my own path forward.

If you’re walking that same path, learning to live, love, and lead while carrying the weight of mother loss -- I see you.

At The Heart of Miss Bee, Inc., we create space for women navigating this unique grief. We center healing, resilience, and continued connection not just survival.

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You don’t have to stay in the sadness forever.
You’re allowed to grow beyond the grief.